akashnulok: People without kids waste their free time

? In this article from 2009, a duh makes the claim that those of us without children are inefficient and don't value our free time.

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If you don't have kids, you don't have a time problem.
I have friends without kids and I want to wring their neck every time they say, "I'm so busy. I don't have enough time." You don't have enough time?! Are you kidding me? My theory, which seems to be much more popular with my friends that have children, is that people without kids are inefficient and don't fully value their free time.

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Common sense says that if you have children, you will not be as productive. There's no way you will be able to get as much done. That book you want to write? It will take a lot longer. Time for exercise? Limited. People without kids have so much more free time that it's almost unfathomable.
So if common sense is accurate, why aren't people without kids so much more successful and productive? Fortunately, they waste their time and are inefficient. Too harsh? I'm speaking from personal experience.

The comments all appear to be from childfree people, so of course he gets what he deserves.

I, for one, enjoy my downtime and doubt I could be busy doing productive things all the time without suffering a breakdown. Relaxation time is something I've built into my life. I somehow also find the time for taking evening classes and other forms of self-improvement. Still, there isn't enough time - not because I "waste" it, but because there are so many things that I want to do, and even if I could go without sleep I wouldn't have time to do it all.

I don't need advice on how to live my life from Mr. Breeder:

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Don't think you waste your time? Track it for a day or a week. If you really want to get depressed, have a friend with a child track his time and compare the results.
If you don't have kids you have all the time in the world. Go forth and use it. Let me know what you do with it. In the meantime, I'll be at Disneyland...

We are more productive and successful. He is probably too busy leaving work early for soccer and ballet to notice.

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In this article from 2009, a duh makes the claim that those of us without children are inefficient and don't value our free time.
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If you don't have kids, you don't have a time problem.
I have friends without kids and I want to wring their neck every time they say, "I'm so busy. I don't have enough time." You don't have enough time?! Are you kidding me? My theory, which seems to be much more popular with my friends that have children, is that people without kids are inefficient and don't fully value their free time.

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Common sense says that if you have children, you will not be as productive. There's no way you will be able to get as much done. That book you want to write? It will take a lot longer. Time for exercise? Limited. People without kids have so much more free time that it's almost unfathomable.
So if common sense is accurate, why aren't people without kids so much more successful and productive? Fortunately, they waste their time and are inefficient. Too harsh? I'm speaking from personal experience.

The comments all appear to be from childfree people, so of course he gets what he deserves.
I, for one, enjoy my downtime and doubt I could be busy http://instagram.com/p/QGEFdcukbr productive things all the time without suffering a breakdown. Relaxation time is something I've built into my life. I somehow also find the time for taking evening classes and other forms of self-improvement. Still, there isn't enough time - not because I "waste" it, but because there are so many things that I want to do, and even if I could go without sleep I wouldn't have time to do it all.
I don't need advice on how to live my life from Mr. Breeder:
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Don't think you waste your time? Track it for a day or a week. If you really want to get depressed, have a friend with a child track his time and compare the results.
If you don't have kids you have all the time in the world. Go forth and use it. Let me know what you do with it. In the meantime, I'll be at Disneyland...

So, Mr. Dad wants me to track my time and compare it to his in some pissing contest over what constitutes "busy" and "time efficiency"? Could I get him a huge bucket of Don't Give A Fuck? I am not getting paid by him, so what I do with my time is none of his damn business. if I want to sit around watching a Deadly Women marathon on ID all day, I don't care if he thinks I am "using my time inefficiently". In fact, chances are his CF friends all claim that they are busy because they would rather sear their retinas with a wood burning tool than spend any time around a smug, judgmental ass fuck.

Re: People without kids waste their free time
September 28, 2012 08:59AM

Registered: 2 months ago

The major failure of this idea is that the concepts of what activities constitute a "Waste of Time" versus "A Productive Use of Time" versus "An It Had to be Done at Some Point Use of Time" versus "A Valuable Use of Time" are entirely subjective and will be completely different from person to person.

In addition the concepts of what results constitute a "Valuable/Worthwhile Product" of "Efficiently and Productively/Valuably Used Time" are going to be completely different depending on person and situation.

wait, so he'll be at disneyland..... now THAT'S a productive use of time....

In the mean time, I'll be roofing my house. He can shove it.

Re: People without kids waste their free time
September 28, 2012 09:15AM

Registered: 4 months ago

Most of his activities are things involved with raising his kids. How is that productive? Maybe productive for his kid's lives, but destructive for the rest of the world because of his unneeded resource suckers.

What he's trying to do is attach "meaning" to his free time. He does this and this and this while away from his kids because he thinks he has to make the most of his time when he's not being interupted by his kids. Then he has time to go to Disney World with his kids. CF people can do this and this and this whenever they want and still go to Disney World and have a good time without worrying about what the screaming brats want.

Since he has kids, pretty much everything he does from now on can be considered "destructive" and not "productive." He's productive in about the same sense as purposely spilling a glass of water on your floor just so you can spend time moping it.

Re: People without kids waste their free time
September 28, 2012 09:20AM

Registered: 2 months ago

Fuck you gently with a chainsaw Mr Breeder.

I have to type quickly here because I'm headed into work. Oh, and as an aside? Yeah, I'm free to pick up extra shifts for my coworkers because I'm CF. My coworker is taking care of her sick mother so I'm covering for her. Last night I covered for a coworker who was herself sick. So is working at my job and being available to help others a waste of time?

People spend their time working, training for marathons, crafting, volunteering, and jerking off. That is their own fucking business and not yours. You chose to breed and thus created an enterprise that requires time. Believe me, I look at lazy moos pushing their strollers around town and sipping lattes as having all the free time in the world since they're not working or doing anything for anyone else.

I do NOT have free time, I simply have time not spent raising loaves. And what the fuck do you do that's so valuable? Give your kids time outs and abuse their sports coaches?

And as much as we love to get excited over CFC celebrities and achievers, most people have kids. Great athletes, heads of state, teachers, artists, community volunteers, business leaders, and musicians all have kids and manage to contribute to the world. You just use your loaves as an excuse for being a loser.

"If you don't have kids, you don't have a time problem."

Unless, for example, some LOSER WITH BRATS IS SLOWING DOWN THE GROCIERY LINE.

He's a DUH all right. DUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

" In the meantime, I'll be at Disneyland"

Yer welcome to it! ENJOY THE SCREAMING.

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You chose to breed and thus created an enterprise that requires time.

I second this. How many times do we have to tell that these are CHOICES? It was his choice to have kids and he should have realized that it requires time. Now that he probably doesn't have it, he starts attacking the CF. Well, typical attitude of a jealous breeder.

And if we don't have kids that doesn't mean we have all the free time in the world. I do have to hold a part-time job, to work on my new degree, i take other courses than my university ones, i am taking my car driver's licence, i put some time into sports also, i do volunteering, not to mention the domestic chores and errands.

That he chose to fill up his time with kids is his business and he should STFU.

Re: People without kids waste their free time
September 28, 2012 09:59AM

Registered: 1 year ago

I can choose what to do with my free time and I most certainly value it. I treasure any kind of freedom more than anything. I may do something productive, or not. I have the whole day today, let's seee.....Who cares? Duh is OCD or some shit.

Re: People without kids waste their free time
September 28, 2012 10:07AM

Registered: 1 year ago

His whole message oozes envy and resentment.

And I'm quite certain he didn't spend time worrying about "wasting" his free time until he had kids. Then he realized he didn't get any, and is wistfully thinking back to when he had time to sleep in (or just SLEEP, period), work out, have sex, do creative projects...all gone now. So he patched things up by deciding that "productivity" is important for free time.

No one cares what he thinks. No one cares what he does. No one cares about the disgusting mediocrities he is raising. Roll-Eyes

Child rearing is busy-making work.

People do it to climb social ladders, gain status, feel important, and have people under their thumb for a couple of decades. People to extract love and attention from, often by guilt making and mental manipulation. And probably people to wipe old, wrinkly asses out of obligation and mind-fuckery.

This piece of shit, perfectly inconsequential, duhd wants to be relevant in this world. Instead of doing it with real achievement, he wipes noses and carries stale fries around.

Don't use us to feel relevant and important. You are neither.

Ugh. My friend told me last night that she can't stay out late for a friend's birthday party - on a Saturday night - because she has SO MUCH GOING ON! She is a SAHM with one kyd in preschool, a maid, grocery delivery, and a filthy-rich husband. You know what she has GOING ON? Getting her precious little Bratleigh into the "right" Manhattan kindergarten. That's it. She still has time for a run AND a yoga class every day, plus hanging out with her other rich SAHMs for play dates that include a bottle of wine each.

For the record, no matter what she says, this woman will get totally shitfaced and will be surreptitiously snorting controlled substances in the bathroom before the meal is over. It's almost too cliched for words.

Re: People without kids waste their free time
September 28, 2012 10:55AM

Registered: 7 months ago

Oh please! Who is more inefficient with their time than SAHMoos? They have all the damn time in the world, and yet they can't do anything worthwhile.I waste my free time? Fuck you. I go to school for 15 hours every week. I go to work for 20-30 hours per week. I have time aside for homework, time for housework, and time to get places. I use my time riding the bus for homework and checking up on things. Not a minute of my time is wasted but by other people.

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Re: People without kids waste their free time
September 28, 2012 11:18AM

Registered: 3 months ago

I am (not) sorry (at all) but if I want to spend time gazing at the horizon longingly and I consider it a valuable use of my time, who is this man to say it is not so?
After I have worked, and done my house chore, what I like to do is my business, duh.

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? Patrick O'Brian, The Truelove

?She was not, herself, hugely in favor of motherhood in general. Obviously it was necessary, but it wasn't exactly difficult. Even cats managed it. But women acted as if they'd been given a medal that entitled them to boss people around. It was as if, just because they'd got the label which said "mother", everyone else got a tiny part of the label that said "child"...?

? Terry Pratchett, Carpe Jugulum

Who does this asswipe think he is, passing judgment on how ANYONE spends their time, childed or not?

It's clear as a bell that this guy is green with envy.

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Re: People without kids waste their free time
September 28, 2012 11:28AM

Registered: 2 years ago

Time's never wasted when you're wasted all the time! big grin

On a serious note - why should one be blamed for good time management skills and being efficient?

If anyone's the idiot here it's Duh - because *he created extra work for himself!* (Das Brats).

Oh yes, Mr. Breeder man, shower your envy upon me like the sweet nectar of the gods. Oooooooohhhh yyyyeaaaah.. Lol! Was this supposed to piss me off? Lol! You just made my day! I want to wear his regret-filled tears like perfume.

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"In reality, children are often used as an excuse for giving up on life without even trying. The moral of the story is, when you do not do what you really want to do, there is no excuse.
Not work, not the family, not the country."
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Re: People without kids waste their free time
September 28, 2012 01:36PM

Registered: 2 years ago

Is he jealous that we have time to relax if we so desire?
Relaxing is not a waste of time. It helps to revive you so that you can put more energy and creativity in to the "busy" parts of your life.

Re: People without kids waste their free time
September 28, 2012 01:40PM

Registered: 2 months ago

I gave away my last fuck a while ago. Nobody cares what you think, Duh. You obviously regret your life choices and now you attack anyone that was smart enough not to make the same mistake you did. Too bad, so sad.There was only five comments on that POS but all of them tear the "writer" a new asshole.Sounds like a typical breeder - "My time is far more important because I have kiiiiiiiids!"

On the contrary, CFers do value their free time, which is probably one of the reasons most of us are CF to begin with. We like being able to do what we like in our free time without having to make arrangements for child care or have what we do revolve around kids in some way.

Even then, who cares what anyone does in their spare time? Unless is pisses me off or causes me or someone else harm in some way, I don't care if someone is spending their free time trying to cure AIDS, hack into government files or sitting in front of the TV watching game shows and jerking off. Just because someone has a few brats doesn't mean their free time is more valuable - many parents are lazy slobs who don't work (or if they do, they're fucking lazy at work too but expect the same pay as the people who actually WORK). Not to mention this is a guy - a vast majority of fathers don't do shit in terms of raising their own kids. What's this asshole doing that's so important?

He cares so damn much about what unchilded people are doing because he wishes he could do it too. It's not a lack of free time - it's just he can't go back to college or build something or paint something without interruption from the kids he CHOSE to have. In short, jealousy and regret.

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That doesn't make any damn sense. We ARE more successful and more productive, because we're doing REAL things, like working full time jobs, going to school, volunteering, you know, being a productive member of society. And all the mindless mombies and duh's are cleaning shit and sorting cheerios into little baggies. I would say that I get about ten more things done in MY day than any moo or duh, because I actually have more time to do them! See, your logic is...ehh let's just call it like it is, your poor attempt at masking your seething jealousy isn't working.

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